As it is Maytime and Beltane,
and a fire festival in the pagan calendar, it’s Spring officially and Summer is
fast approaching. As a pagan myself, this is a time of handfastings,
declarations of love and a celebration of passion and sexual enjoyment out of
doors. I’ve been to some lovely handfastings, and each one is as individual as
the next one.
This is the time of year when
the sap is rising in the trees and plants, animals and also in humans. We are
no exception. We are driven by primeval desire and animal instincts through our
animal brain stem and although we don’t have seasonal urges, we are always more
“switched on” in the warmer sunnier weather. We do however, have the gift of
the frontal lobes of our brain which have evolved over the ages and given us
the ability to overcome our base urges with our intellect and sense of love and
compassion for our fellow man.
Aliens landing now would find
this hard to believe as they watch us warring with each other; imprisoning and
torturing each other and imposing cruel regimes on our fellow man which is the
stuff of sci fi horror. The older I get the more confused and disappointed I am
at the combined mindset of my fellow man, particularly in the relationship
department. What is commonly described to me as love seems as far removed from
that as it is possible to be. I have always understood sex to be a raising of
energy on a spiritual level, or an equal and balanced enjoyment of mutual
pleasure and respect by spiritually mature people. Sadly I too often see it
used as a conditional bargaining chip or a manipulative emotional or business arrangement
where one is the aggressor and controlling influence and the other either puts
up and shuts up or there is evidence of threats and coercion.
Of course there are
relationships where it is agreed by the participants that one is the dominant
and the other the submissive, and this is balanced, mutually agreed upon and purely
between the people concerned and I am not referring to arrangements like this.
What I am referring to are
the less balanced ones where one party gets enjoyment from overpowering the
other against their will. A great many relationships would not exist if it were
not for sex and its darker aspects. The thing that really upsets me and has
become more apparent to me as I have got older is the amount of so called
“spiritual” people who delight in manipulating devoted people in a less than
spiritually sexual way, often against their will, and becoming angered when the
recipient of their attention starts to object. I don’t think control and
possession belong in any spiritual union and should certainly not occur to an
attuned individual who has tamed the dragon energy inside, the serpent of
temptation, and yet continues to demand obedience and submission form an
unwilling subject.
People are people and holding
a position of trust, particularly in a religious or devout context does not
shield you from the normal temptations of excess. No one is beyond being
exploited or exploiting another. It takes a constantly vigilant person to know
themselves, accept their weaknesses, acknowledge the part they play in its
continuation and take responsibility for the after effects of any decision they
make. Until we can be completely honest with ourselves, and allow our higher
mind to guide us and not allow the primeval mind to have full sway, we as a
society, will likely continue the mistakes of the past generations and onward
into an unknown future. No race is exempt and no religion or regime will have
all the answers. The key to a life of love and compassion lies purely within
each one of us. Our unconscious guidance, the small still inner voice, is the
voice of love and understanding, the one we often choose not to listen to or to
respond to. Sex and love can both exist equally together and also without each
other, but beware of confusing the two.
All You Need is Love. The Beatles. https://youtu.be/0oHeeEot35M
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